How to Introduce Sex Toys into Your Relationship: Tips for Couples
Let’s face it: talking about sex toys with your partner can feel like asking if they want pineapple on their pizza — potentially exciting, slightly controversial, and something you should probably ease into gently. ????????
But guess what? Adding a little buzz (pun 100% intended) to your love life doesn’t have to be weird or awkward. In fact, it can be fun, hilarious, and—dare we say—pleasurable for both of you. Whether you're in a new relationship or have been together since Netflix was still mailing DVDs, sex toys can bring in novelty, deepen intimacy, and spark fresh conversations in the bedroom.
1. Start With a Conversation, Not a Vibe Check
Before you unleash the drawer of wonders, start with a chill, honest convo. You don’t need PowerPoint slides (unless that’s your kink), but you do need to communicate openly.
- Pick the right time — maybe not right after dinner at your in-laws’ house.
- Be honest about your curiosity and intentions.
- Ask your partner how they feel about exploring new things together.
Think of it as planning a vacation—you wouldn’t just show up at the airport with a blindfold and say, “Surprise!” Talk about what you’re both comfortable with and what boundaries you want to set.
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2. Normalize the Toy Talk
Let’s normalize sex toys like we normalize oat milk and Bluetooth speakers. They’re just tools — really fun, sexy tools — for connection and pleasure.
Fun fact: many couples who use toys report better communication and more satisfying sex lives. Science, baby. ????❤️
Also, remember: sex toys aren’t a replacement for your partner—they’re a team player. Think of them as the spicy sidekick in your superhero duo.
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3. Start Small (Literally)
You don’t need to dive into the deep end with a neon pink monster called “The Thunderstick 9000.” Start with something simple like:
- A vibrating ring
- A mini bullet vibe
- Massage oils or feathers
Start small and see what works for both of you. This isn’t about going from 0 to “50 Shades of Grey” overnight—it’s about building comfort, trust, and, okay, maybe a little buzz.
4. Shop Together
Make it a date night! Browse a sex toy shop online (or in person if you're brave and bold). Laugh, ask questions, and bond over the hilariously wild product names. It’s like IKEA shopping, but sexier and with fewer allen wrenches.
This can help take the pressure off—it’s not you bringing a surprise; it’s something you’re both choosing and getting excited about together.
5. Set the Mood, Not the Pressure
Once you’ve picked a toy, don’t just throw it onto the bed like a surprise party. Light some candles, turn on some music, and approach it playfully. No expectations. Just curiosity and connection.
If things feel awkward at first, that's totally normal. Remember your first kiss? Yeah—same vibes. Laugh, explore, and focus on the connection.
6. Laugh When It Gets Weird (Because It Will)
Maybe it buzzes too loud. Maybe it jumps off the bed. Maybe your dog won’t stop staring. That’s okay. Sex is about intimacy and fun—not perfection.
Laughter is sexy. If something feels silly, laugh together. It’ll make the experience more relaxed and a lot more memorable. And hey, now you have an inside joke for life!
7. Debrief and Repeat
After the fun, chat about what you liked (or didn’t). This helps build trust and makes your next toy-tastic adventure even better.
Ask questions like:
- Did that feel good for you?
- Would you want to try it again or something different?
- Was there anything you’d change next time?
Over time, this helps strengthen your emotional intimacy just as much as your physical one.
